Monday, December 23, 2013

An Understanding Ear

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Recently I've had the opportunity to hear life stories from friends and coworkers that reminded me you never know what someone else is going through.  Job loss, money problems, drugs, death, illness, etc.

Here is one of my favorite quotes from writer Stephen King:

"The most important things are the hardest to say. They are the things you get ashamed of, because words diminish them - words shrink things that seemed limitless when they were in your head to no more than living size when they're brought out. But it's more than that, isn't it?  The most important things lie too close to wherever your secret heart is buried, like landmarks to a treasure your enemies would love to steal away.  And you may make revelations that cost you dearly only to have people look at you in a funny way, not understanding what you've said at all, or why you thought it was so important that you almost cried while you were saying it. That's the worst, I think.  When the secret stays locked within not for want of a teller but for want of an understanding ear."

This Christmas I hope you find an understanding ear.  And I hope that you have the opportunity to be one for someone else.


Monday, December 9, 2013

A Dog Named Beau

My daughter's teacher shared this video with her class to display the power of words.  As a writer, as a dog lover, this poem touched me, and I thought I'd share...

Monday, November 11, 2013

Happy Veteran's Day

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I haven't posted in a long time.  A demanding day job and health problems have required a lot of my attention.  I'm happy to say that after two surgeries, I'm on the mend, and hope to be more active with blogging again.

Today is Veteran's Day in the United States.  As the granddaughter of a Navy pilot, the daughter of an Air Force veteran, and the wife of an Air Force veteran, I hold a special place in my heart for those who serve.

So today I say thank you.  To my loved ones, and to all those who served.

The picture below is my grandfather flying a Kingfisher in WWII.  He bribed a fellow pilot with a pair of overalls to take this picture while flying over the Pacific.  

RIP, Papa.

Monday, February 18, 2013

Putting Old Ghosts to Rest

A ghost used to haunt me.

This ghost was something that - though I didn't talk about it - had bothered me for years.  Something that I would dream about now and again, telling me that it troubled me more than I cared to admit.

When I recently faced what had disturbed me, it became abundantly clear that it was time for me to say goodbye to the worry.  I gained clarity on why things became what they were in this situation, and that what had changed most was me.  I'm not sure the change is good or bad, just a change, and I am now at peace.

I feel lighter.  So I had to share. 

Has this ever happened to you?  Was your ghost a job?  A lost love?  A family member?  A friendship?  A lost object?   

Monday, February 11, 2013

Tired Of The Word No?
Do you get tired of the word no? 

I do.  More specifically, I get tired of saying it.  As a mom.  As an HR Professional who knows that you wanting to take a certain action with an employee is Not. A. Good. Idea.

After my oldest was born, I remember a fellow co-worker telling me a joke that we spend the first two years of our kids' lives teaching them to walk and talk and the next sixteen years to sit down and shut up. 

If we all did as we truly wanted, chaos would reign.  We would do what was right for us, right now, instead of what was right for our fellow man.  It'd be like the Wild West again.

Not all the time. I don't believe people are all good or all bad.  Just focused on the self.

But at what point are all of those no's killing our individuality and creativity and freedom?

I don't have the answer to that, but I know I get tired of being the cop.  Maybe society is too structured.  Too rigid.  Too legislated.

"Boy, I got vision, and the rest of the world wears bifocals."
-Paul Newman as Butch Cassidy in The Sundance Kid

So when did you last say no when what you really wanted to say was "What the hell.  Why not?"

Tuesday, January 1, 2013

A Simple New Year's Resolution

I have one New Year's Resolution for 2013.  It is this:

~ I'll show up.  I'll listen.  I'll try to laugh. ~

It's taken from Anna Quindlen's book, A Short Guide to a Happy Life, where she states "I show up.  I listen.  I try to laugh."

For me, it doesn't get any simpler or any more meaningful than that.  And I don't do it enough.

Have a safe and Happy New Year!