Monday, February 18, 2013

Putting Old Ghosts to Rest

A ghost used to haunt me.

This ghost was something that - though I didn't talk about it - had bothered me for years.  Something that I would dream about now and again, telling me that it troubled me more than I cared to admit.

When I recently faced what had disturbed me, it became abundantly clear that it was time for me to say goodbye to the worry.  I gained clarity on why things became what they were in this situation, and that what had changed most was me.  I'm not sure the change is good or bad, just a change, and I am now at peace.

I feel lighter.  So I had to share. 

Has this ever happened to you?  Was your ghost a job?  A lost love?  A family member?  A friendship?  A lost object?   

Monday, February 11, 2013

Tired Of The Word No?
Do you get tired of the word no? 

I do.  More specifically, I get tired of saying it.  As a mom.  As an HR Professional who knows that you wanting to take a certain action with an employee is Not. A. Good. Idea.

After my oldest was born, I remember a fellow co-worker telling me a joke that we spend the first two years of our kids' lives teaching them to walk and talk and the next sixteen years to sit down and shut up. 

If we all did as we truly wanted, chaos would reign.  We would do what was right for us, right now, instead of what was right for our fellow man.  It'd be like the Wild West again.

Not all the time. I don't believe people are all good or all bad.  Just focused on the self.

But at what point are all of those no's killing our individuality and creativity and freedom?

I don't have the answer to that, but I know I get tired of being the cop.  Maybe society is too structured.  Too rigid.  Too legislated.

"Boy, I got vision, and the rest of the world wears bifocals."
-Paul Newman as Butch Cassidy in The Sundance Kid

So when did you last say no when what you really wanted to say was "What the hell.  Why not?"